It has been a rather eventful month for us since stepping into 2010.

In short…..

Rayner’s diagnosed with mild traits and characteristics of ADHD.  What is ADHD?  And after reading and surfing the net and talking to professionals and experienced parents.  This is my conclusion.

When many people think of ADHD, they picture an out-of-control kid in constant motion, bouncing off the walls and disrupting everyone around. But this is not the only possible picture. Some children with ADD/ADHD are hyperactive, while others sit quietly (with their attention miles away). Some put too much focus on a task and have trouble shifting it to something else. Others are only mildly inattentive but overly impulsive.

The 3 primary characteristics of ADD / ADHD are inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.

Symptoms of inattention in children:

  • Doesn’t pay attention to details or makes careless mistakes
  • Has trouble staying focused; is easily distracted
  • Appears not to listen when spoken to
  • Has difficulty remembering things and following instructions
  • Has trouble staying organized, planning ahead, and finishing projects
  • Frequently loses or misplaces homework, books, toys, or other items

Symptoms of hyperactivity in children:

  • Constantly fidgets and squirms
  • Often leaves his or her seat in situations where sitting quietly is expected
  • Moves around constantly, often running or climbing inappropriately
  • Talks excessively, has difficulty playing quietly
  • Is always “on the go,” as if driven by a motor

Symptoms of impulsivity in children:

  • Blurts out answers without waiting to be called on hear the whole question
  • Has difficulty waiting for his or her turn
  • Often interrupts others
  • Intrudes on other people’s conversations or games
  • Inability to keep powerful emotions in check, resulting in angry outbursts or temper tantrums

Positive effects of ADD & ADHD in children

  • Creativity – Children who have ADD / ADHD can be marvelously creative and imaginative. The child who daydreams and has ten different thoughts at once can become a master problem-solver, a fountain of ideas, or an inventive artist. Children with ADD may be easily distracted, but sometimes they notice what others don’t see.
  • Flexibility – Because children with ADD / ADHD consider a lot of options at once, they don’t become set on one alternative early on and are more open to different ideas.
  • Enthusiasm and spontaneity – Children with ADD / ADHD are rarely boring! They’re interested in a lot of different things and have lively personalities. In short, if they’re not exasperating you (and sometimes even when they are), they’re a lot of fun to be with.
  • Energy and drive – When kids with ADD / ADHD are motivated, they work or play hard and strive to succeed. It actually may be difficult to distract them from a task that interests them, especially if the activity is interactive or hands-on.

Keep in mind, too, that ADD/ADHD has nothing to do with intelligence or talent. Many children with ADD/ADHD are intellectually or artistically gifted.

We have already established that ADHD isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in fact, if we can manage the problem correctly, it can even be a good thing.  So we are now seeing a Psychologist and working on a structure to better manage Rayner or his future outburst of emotions.  You must be asking why suddenly ADHD now….he was okay all these while….Rayner probably has been exhibiting all these symptons since young and ever since starting Primary school, these problem areas are very much highlighted in bold especially so when he is now studying in a neighbour hood school.  He has boundless and never ending energy.  So much so that he is too much for his Mother Tongue Teacher to handle and the teacher in turn keeps calling me to complain about him.  Luckily for us, Rayner’s P2 form teacher Mrs Alice Wee is a very experienced and patience teacher.  She totally knows how to keep in under control and how to work with kids like him.  Cross my fingers and toes, so far so good, she has been keeping him under control.

Then the little one….both her child care teacher and I have noticed that she is still writing some alphabets and numbers in a mirror image.  We first came to realize she has this problem when she was 4 plus but thought she would eventually correct herself like most kids.  But no, she is coming 6 this year and she is still writing mirror images of letters and numbers and this is starting to get pretty worrying.

Some say maybe she is Dyslexia and some say maybe Learning disability.

Dyslexia is a learning disorder that manifests itself as a difficulty with reading, spelling and in some cases mathematics. It is separate and distinct from reading difficulties resulting from other causes, such as a non-neurological deficiency with vision or hearing, or from poor or inadequate reading instruction.

Dyslexia is thought to be the result of a neurological defect, and though not an intellectual disability, it is variously considered a learning disability, a language disability, and a reading disability, among others.Dyslexia is diagnosed in people of all levels of intelligence.

I want to find out and see how I can help her but not sure where to begin and start and this is very nerve whrecking for me.  I don’t deny that I am very stress over it.  I am losing sleep and am eating much lesser these days.  I look like shit…..

I appreciate the fact that David is taking notice and is stepping in to help take charge by talking to the kids.  Despite being the stern character in the family, the kids simply adore and love him, especially Rayner.  No matter how David scolds and punishes this boy, he always longs to be and spend more time with his father.

Sunday, 17 January 2010 I turned 35.  No celebrations just a simple dinner with my family.  My buddies Kat and Mandy went thro the effort of buying a cake and sending it to the office to surprise me.  Thanks dearies, what would I do without all of you, although there is nothing you can do to help but see me wallow in sadness but knowing you girls are always there virtually to support and good enough for me to continue pushing on.

Monday & Tuesday, 18 & 19 January 2010 – Under doctor’s order to take time off to rest and do nothing.  Spend time away from kids and work.  Let my brain have the time to stop and rot.  After the rotting process is completed, then only it can regenerate.  Then I can start afresh.

I can foresee that this is going to be a very challenging year for us.  Let’s all work hard for a better tomorrow.